Why can't I lose weight?

Ever since I got married I gained a little weight. Mainly after having 2 kids. Which I have lost some weight and back into my just married size. When I get to, which is almost everyday of the week, I work out at the gym for 2 hours. I have tried the classes and also the cardio plus weights. And on some days that I have time I get on my tredmill and pilates machine at home as well as go to the gym at night. I am breastfeeding too. Diets are hard for me but I eat a salad with lunch and dinner. I cut out bread and pasta except on occasion maybe once a week or every 2 weeks. I don't drink soda unless at a party somewhere where nothing else is offered. I wasn't worried about my weight before I got married because I looked good and I always had guys telling me I am hot and going after me. But the day after I get married my husband tells me I am fat and need to work out. I didn't workout before I got married I just went dancing a few days a week and I did do some crunches and stuff at home. But I walked a lot around campus everyday too. Now I am married and there is something wrong with me? He is the only person to ever tell me I don't look good which is a depressing shock since I had 2 modeling contracts before I got married. Now I work out more than ever and try to eat good and I can't loose weight. He tells me all day long and reminds me all day long to exercise and not eat anything but one piece of lettuce a day. I had my thyroid and everything else tested. I am perfectly ok in that respect. I don't take any medications except vitamins when I remember and occasional tylenol or motrin. I can't try weight loss pills until I am done breastfeeding.Its not motivating to workout so much and not lose weight. I run and I hate running. The only thing I can think to do is stop eating completely but I can't do that because I am not disciplined or messed up in the head. Any weight loss suggestions? I am desparate to please him and make him happy because he is disgusted by me. I wear a size large shirt and large pants. I am not in the plus sizes. My boobs are huge 40E from breastfeeding 2 kids in a 3 year time period (because i had 2 kids in 3 years). I don't have money for lapband or tummy tucks and lipo. I need to do this on my own but what I do doesn't work.